First things first, I hate dating. When I say dating what I really mean is going out with someone with the intent of trying to develop something. It irritates me because I feel like most guys are putting on an act and 9 times out of 10 they are. Now if I so happen to meet someone say in like idk Wal Mart and we exchange numbers and keep in contact as friends and something develops from there, then that's different. I honestly don't have the time, patience or desire to figure out someone new.....maybe that'll change with time. Let's hope.
I asked a friend if he thought I was picky and he told me to an extent. He then corrected himself and said that I have a set of standards that I'm not going to find in one guy. At first when he told me I was picky I became somewhat offended, but then I sat back and thought about it and realized that I am indeed picky. But the way I feel, everyone should be picky. I'm not picky in the sense that a guy has to be 6'3", 250 lbs, brown skin, masters degree etc etc. I know a few girls who could draw you a sketch of her dream guy. But that's a bit much in my opinion. Are having standards and being picky one in the same? If not, when does having outrageous standards equate pickiness?
I thought about standards because today I received a call from a friend asking me if I'd help him pack. Had I not had plans of my own I would have but he and I got to chatting anyway. He starts telling me about how he needed to get his life together and get his finances in order and so forth. So I asked "are you moving back home with your parents." His response? "Not exactly." I couldn't help but dig once he said that because I knew where this was headed. Now before I say anything else, this is my friend. Someone I care about and someone I want to see succeed in life. Moving forward, he says he's moving in with his GF of only 5 months. As happy of a time it should be it broke my heart. I've seen this friend have failed relationship after failed relationship. He's optimistic but I'm a realist. While I wish him the best, I don't see any good coming from this.
I use my friend as an example because I honestly don't think he's taking his past relationships into consideration when entering a new one. I use my old relationships and old encounters to help me grow. To help me be a better me. I use my past as a guide to navigate towards a better future and I honestly think that's why I've been pegged as picky. Some roads aren't worth being traveled twice. I usually learn my life lessons after they've been taught the first time. Evidently it takes others longer. I guess it was naive of me to assume that everyone learned from their mistakes the first time. But as the saying goes, you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved. I don't know it all but I do believe I'm somewhat wise beyond my years.
My point is this; if we don't take the time to learn our lessons when we first encounter them, we're going to keep running into them.I"ve learned my lessons and as a result I've developed my standards. There's a reason we're put into these situations...to LEARN from them. If you're not learning and growing......what ARE you doing?
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I asked a friend if he thought I was picky and he told me to an extent. He then corrected himself and said that I have a set of standards that I'm not going to find in one guy. At first when he told me I was picky I became somewhat offended, but then I sat back and thought about it and realized that I am indeed picky. But the way I feel, everyone should be picky. I'm not picky in the sense that a guy has to be 6'3", 250 lbs, brown skin, masters degree etc etc. I know a few girls who could draw you a sketch of her dream guy. But that's a bit much in my opinion. Are having standards and being picky one in the same? If not, when does having outrageous standards equate pickiness?
I thought about standards because today I received a call from a friend asking me if I'd help him pack. Had I not had plans of my own I would have but he and I got to chatting anyway. He starts telling me about how he needed to get his life together and get his finances in order and so forth. So I asked "are you moving back home with your parents." His response? "Not exactly." I couldn't help but dig once he said that because I knew where this was headed. Now before I say anything else, this is my friend. Someone I care about and someone I want to see succeed in life. Moving forward, he says he's moving in with his GF of only 5 months. As happy of a time it should be it broke my heart. I've seen this friend have failed relationship after failed relationship. He's optimistic but I'm a realist. While I wish him the best, I don't see any good coming from this.
I use my friend as an example because I honestly don't think he's taking his past relationships into consideration when entering a new one. I use my old relationships and old encounters to help me grow. To help me be a better me. I use my past as a guide to navigate towards a better future and I honestly think that's why I've been pegged as picky. Some roads aren't worth being traveled twice. I usually learn my life lessons after they've been taught the first time. Evidently it takes others longer. I guess it was naive of me to assume that everyone learned from their mistakes the first time. But as the saying goes, you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved. I don't know it all but I do believe I'm somewhat wise beyond my years.
My point is this; if we don't take the time to learn our lessons when we first encounter them, we're going to keep running into them.I"ve learned my lessons and as a result I've developed my standards. There's a reason we're put into these situations...to LEARN from them. If you're not learning and growing......what ARE you doing?
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